Etawah. You think of yourself as a normal, intellectual individual. Your lifestyle from waking hours to bed time is well occupied with long hours of study at school and home work, some hours of game and fun, entertainment with computer or television, errands of parents and demands of siblings at home. Sometimes, you may feel overwhelmed with work, have tensed relationships in the school, something pleasant or unpleasant happened while playing or had to shut down the computer at the request of your parents. All these lead to reactions. These reactions may be called emotions.
Emotions are feelings which express physical and mental state of a person,
associated with a variety of feelings, thoughts and behaviour.
Emotions are caused by your interpretations of events that arouse a physiological reaction. If a fellow student says harsh words to you, it hurts you but if you excuse him for his ignorance, it is possible that you meet that student afresh. That is real education. But if you react by being angry with him and allow yourself to be controlled by hatred, you are giving in to negative behaviour. Similarly, when you win a prize, if you acknowledge it as a reward for hard work and it stimulates you to work more, the happiness will not be short-lived or you will not be disappointed when you are not awarded a prize.
Everyday life is full of experiences that evoke reactions pleasant and unpleasant. What can you do about it? You must take command over your feelings and reactions and decide how you will respond to situations and events in a manner that helps you grow as a person. This is managing your emotions. To become skilled at managing emotions, you must first recognise the different sensations and body language that emotions evoke in you. Pleasant experiences arouse positive emotions. They are uplifting and create a lot of energy within the body for work and growth.
Some positive emotions are love, appreciation, happiness, enthusiasm, confidence, gratitude and hope. Your experience of life would tell you that life is not a bed of roses with pleasant emotions alone but roses with thorns.
Acknowledge and expect the other group of sensations the negative emotions
as part of day-to-day life.
Some common negative emotions are :
- Fear :-
It occurs in response to a specific expected danger. It is a negative behaviour which tries to escape from pain.
2 Anger :-
It is the external expression of displeasure and hostility. It can be found in facial expressions and body language.
- Guilt :-
It is aroused when a person has violated a moral principle.
- Depression :-
It is a pessimistic sense of indifference and lack of activity.
- Pride :-
It is an exaggerated positive evaluation of oneself and a devaluation of others.
- Jealousy :-
The thoughts, feelings and behaviour that occur when a person believes that a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival is termed as jealousy.
A few constructive tips to assist in managing emotions are :
a. Get enough rest. Tiredness affects your attention span.
b. Eat a balanced diet. It’s easy to become ‘cranky’ if you are hungry or high on sugar.
c. Take some exercise. Walk, jog or swim to let off steam’ and calm down.
d. Talking to a friend is an effective tool for managing emotions.
e. Have a positive attitude. It is uplifting while negative thinking will drag you down.
g. Read and listen. There is a wealth of information available to help you build self-confidence, making you feel sure of yourself and more secure.
h. Take responsibility for your own feelings. Become aware of what it is that makes you happy, sad, worried, angry or discontented.